My Confession of Insecurity and Fear – You Are Not Alone!

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I woke up this morning feeling perfectly fine!  I had a good night’s sleep…ready for the day…lots of business flowing to me.  Then suddenly a few little tears rolled down my cheeks.  I wanted to run and hide but there was no place to go.  Life is good…why was I feeling this way? What in the world was going on?  I needed to get myself out of this scary place (that was only in my head) and I needed to do it fast!

Then came the “ah ha” breakthrough moment!

My confession:  I was afraid.   It dawned on me that I was simply feeling insecure.  To be more specific, I was afraid of succeeding in a way that I only dreamed of before!  You see, I’m working on a major transition in my life and it’s something I have wanted for many, many years but have only taken baby steps to accomplish.  Now, it can be real…and that scared me.

Someone once told me that, when it comes to this particular dream, I “dip my toes in the water” to see how it feels.  They also said that what I need to do is jump right in and THAT was the only way I can have what I REALLY want!  I need to jump in full force, body and soul, with a firm and unwavering commitment to my dream!

Can you relate to this?

Guess what?  This is the same advice I give to my clients on a daily basis.   Why do I give that advice?  It’s because it has worked for me for the past 30 years.  Those who know me well, know that I “jump in” fully committed and get things done!   That is, except for this one particular dream…which happens to be what I want the most.

What will happen in my life when I get exactly what I want?  What would happen in your life if YOU get exactly what you want?   What is holding you back from jumping fully toward your dream?

“Most people are very good at the ‘dream’ part of success.”

What I know for sure, over the past 30 years of helping individuals and business owners succeed, is that most people are very good at the “dream” part of success.

What they are not so great at is the “commitment” to doing what it takes to make that dream a reality.  They are not good at implementing the advice they receive, they are not consistent, and they are not committed for the long-term.  What most people do is “dip their toes” and run away at the first setback.  Or, they dip their toes and then get distracted by something that is comfortable and not so scary.  Unfortunately, those dreams are then set aside for another day; a day when they can comfortably dip their toes again.

I’m done dipping my toes!  I’m ready to take my own advice.  I’m ready to commit!

Are you ready?  Let’s jump!  

(I’ll even hold your hand along the way to let you know you are not alone!)

Share your dream with me!  Email me at


What Do Sticky Notes Have to Do with Success…or Struggle?

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Let’s face it  – we are ALL influenced to some degree (either positively or negatively) by our environment, our interactions, and what we see, hear, taste, smell, and touch.   Yes, ALL of us!

Do you ever wonder why you have some of the fears you have?  Do you wonder why you are “stuck” and not able to make the changes you want in your life?  Do you feel like, sometimes, you aren’t even living your OWN life?

If so, here’s why:

Whether or not you agree or disagree with what someone says…or how they behave…there is a metaphorical little “sticky note”  created.  (I use sticky notes because I am addicted to them…they are everywhere in my office.)   

That “sticky note” is placed DEEP inside your mind …in your subconscious…and it is stored there.

You DON’T even realize it’s there.

UNTIL…the next time…

The NEXT time is when someone else says something…does something…or behaves in a certain way that “triggers” that deep rooted “sticky note” to come to the surface.

Your subconscious says Wait a minute…there is more information to add to this note.  Let’s make sure to get the rest of the details down. “  or “There’s more information coming through.  It’s time to add another NEW sticky note.”.    Soon, there are millions and millions of messages added to your private, subconscious sticky note stockpile.

EVENTUALLY, all those little  sticky notes come together…collaborate, if you will….and form a “story”.   That STORY…changes the way you think, feel, and YES the way you live your life!  (Think of it like a little brainwashing experiment going on…that you didn’t even realize was happening.)

These “sticky notes” are the root cause of all of our self-doubt, fears, confidence, and success!  They influence every decision we make!

So, what do you do about it?  The first step is to recognize what thoughts, ideas, plans, and desires are truly your own…and NOT someone else’s.  Once you understand the cause of your lack of success or fears, you can move forward toward living the life that is TRULY yours.   The life you were destined to live!  Yes, you can be your authentic self.  We know that when we live our lives authentically, positive and miraculous things start to happen.  That is when we start to see success, feel perfect happiness, and live a life of abundance.

If you want to learn more about how this works, click this link and visit my page about “Destiny Owned – Say YES to Change the Way You Think, Feel, and Live Your Life!” .